I took this article from The Star, Malaysia, and boy, did I had a good laugh…a weird good laugh at that, that is
A HUSBAND suspected his wife was having an affair with another man. He was wrong. To his shock, he discovered a VCD with explicit scenes of his wife having sex with a woman.Harian Metro reported that the woman was the wife’s office colleague and the affair had been going on for the past few months.
The paper said the man grew suspicious when his wife came home from work with love bites on her body. He thought she might be fooling around with a male colleague.
He confronted his wife, who denied having an affair with any man. A whole new light was thrown on the affair when the husband found the hidden VCD and discovered that his rival was a woman.
Seriously, I had my share of laugh. But this article got me thinking. It’s bad enough when your wife cheats on you with a man, but a woman? Oh, my god! I bet the man’s ego was hurt badly. Imagine… you married a woman, and after a few years, she turned lesbian or bisexual. What does that make you? Were you not good enough to satisfy your wife sexually? Or what? There must be something wrong somewhere when your wife have an affair with another woman. If she was a lesbian before marrying you, marriage should be able to change that if done correctly. It can be changed with patience, love and kindness.
But then again, I think the issue in the article above is bigger than just a woman having an affair with another woman. It’s why she resorted to turning into lesbian. Some men (not all) tend to take things for granted, especially when they are already married to the woman for god knows how long. Sexual activities probably hard to come by, say…one week once? Fortnightly once? Things doesn’t usually go the way it does when you’re in your honeymoon years, and women, can get frustrated with men’s attitude and etiquette on bed sometimes. On top of that, men can be pretty oblivious towards women’s emotional needs, that constantly demand nurturing and attention.
And I’m willing to bet, not much men, especially asian men are too fond of foreplay. Most only go on with the deed that’s probably last no longer than 30 minutes, and can be heard snoring soon after, unaware of how unsatisfied their partner was with their performance. What’s worst, I heard stories of men having performed better with whores than with their wife! Well, I supposed that is normal. Some men simply love to venture outside and have a good screw, and then, conveniently comes back to their wife who will take care of their domesticated stuff and bear their bloodline. It’s just a matter of convenience, isn’t it?
For a woman, married woman, sex are much more than lying back on fresh white sheets, endure whatever it is to come and stare at the ceiling like what most religious bodies would suggest- lie back and just let whatever your husband wants to do to your body. There’s a difference between making love and having sex. SEX, is just sex, doesn’t involve any emotional bond between the partners. Sex is plainly physical. Animal can have sex or mate, as you call it, but human beings…human beings should make love.
Making love, it goes beyond just the physical touching and contact of the bodies. It involve romance, passion, caresses and alot of love. Making love should be a physical celebration of love, where it involves two people, cherishing each other, not just one party pleasing themselves.
I used to be ignorant on why women opt to be a lesbian, because I’m disgusted with the fact that they chooses to be in a same sex relationship. After some girly talk with friends and collegue years ago, I was doused with the fact that : MEN DO NOT UNDERSTAND WOMEN. Women are more aware of each other’s needs, listens more and respect their lesbian partner. I was also told that they treat their partner as equal, unlike men, though not all, treats women as something that is beneath them. Some of us are not as patient as the others. Some decided that being patient with chauvinist bastards are just wasting our youth, and so, resorted to being lesbians.
And one more thing, humour me, how many married women out there experience orgasm everytime they have sex or make love?