My father hit the golden number today. And no, he did not win lottery or a jackpot. He hit 50. Today is his birthday, and I gave him a well deserved phonecall to wish him a happy birthday. I did not realize how fast time goes by, and to me, my father stays young forever, always a 30-ish. And perhaps, that goes the same with him, all his daughters are his baby girls forever.
50… he hits 50, and I have come to realization that I’ve been taking things for granted which is spending time with my parents. Oh well, that is kinda hard to avoid because we live miles apart, and I can’t afford to make trips back to hometown every week or fortnightly like others.
Growing up following my parents who are transferred around Malaysia every 2,3,4 years has caused my childhood, and I have realized that is another reason why I did not go back often. It’s because I simply do not have any friends or aqquintance to loiter with when I go back for a visit, and I have to be stay at home because I’m not familar with the place they are staying now. Not to mention having no others but my parents and my sister as companion is some sort of turn off. So, instead of going back to my old folks’, I just give them a call every now and then.
But, I feel guilty nevertheless and wishes to see my family often, and I wonder how many out there do not go back to visit their parents or in laws often? You see, it’s a common knowledge that when a woman is married, she’ll go back less, and some are not even permitted to see her families after a few years of marriage. I’ve heard some old wivies tale about extreme chauvinistic Muslim husbands who don’t mix well with the wife’s family telling the wife that if she’s to step out of the house to visit her family, she’ll be automatically divorced. And there’s a number of non-Muslim husbands who does that too. Sad, but yes, some husband simply treats his wife like a property he owns, and forgets that she too have a family before marrying him. How could one so heartlessly severe family ties like that is beyond my understanding.
Maybe in this never ending rat race and mind boggling Malaysia, we should take a break and cherish the ones around us, and try to spend some quality time with our old folks while we can. I certainly can’t spend too much time with mine due to distance factor, but I do hope you people out there can do so when you can, and while the old folks are still around.
Cleffairy: Happy birthday dad. You’re always young in my heart.