I tuned into the radio a couple of days ago while driving, and this is quite a rare thing for me to do, because usually I would opt to listen to my own Cds instead of tuning into the radio as I’m quite against payola that’s practiced by most radio station. I consider listening to songs that’s just mediocre but aired so many times a day that one would have lost count something stressful. Besides payola, I also lack tolerance towards annoying deejays and the calling-ins session, where Q&A are sometimes so stupid that you could have given anything to strangle both the deejay on air as well as their obnoxious callers.
However, the other day, when I was about to switched to my regular driving Cd, my ears caught a discussion that interest me. It was about freeloaders and it immediately flared me up, because I really lack tolerance for freeloaders, among other things.
I wasn’t really paying attention to the discussion, however, I thought freeloading is quite a despicable thing to do, especially for working and married adults. I can never tolerate someone who are selfish enough to practice freeloading. I’ve experienced such thing in my life, where people that I know, be it friends or relative takes advantage of me pretty often, as I have the tendency of treating people for tea or a meal every now and then. It’s a learned behaviour. My father is the kind of people who will pay for group lunch, etc. He’s a charitable man, and he believed that what goes round will come around. To a certain degree, I’m in agreement with my dear father, but unlike him, I have limits because my savings account could not afford to be so charitable towards undeserving people.
Let’s take this as an example, shall we?When one goes out for a group lunch or even a midnight tea session, sometimes, one person would be offering to pay the bills, right? It’s common for close friends or relative to pay the bills for one another every now and then, and next time the group go out together, a different person would be offering to clear the bills. However, I am sure some of you noticed that sometimes there’s at least one person who never once offered to pay the bills or even pay up for his or her part. What’s worst, after a few times, that particular person would probably sit there and just let others settle his bill and behaves as if it’s other’s responsibility to pay for what he had ordered.
I am not sure what contribute to this kind of negative attitude-are they stingy or have financial problems? My guess it’s not really financial situation that contribute to such thing, as some people would rather starve when they do not have money rather than leech around for a free lunch or two.
Frankly speaking, I think freeloaders are selfish kind of people. They keep their own money for their own personal usage. They could splurge on a shopping spree and even swipe the cards to their heart content yet they have no common courtesy to even offer to pay for themselves during group lunch, dinner and whatnot. When family and friends are fed up with their attitude and shy away from them, they would find new victim who would be willing to pay for them. And the cycle would go on and on endlessly.
Freeloaders will usually leech and leech from others countlessly and would never feel ashame about it. They are thick-skinned people with lack of courtesy to even begin with. They don’t give a damn on what others thought about their attitude. Absolutely thick skinned species of human. But these kind, is still tolerable to certain extent because the amount of money is not so huge, unless of course, you do maths according to the accumulate amount they leeched from you.
The type of freeloader that I could never ever tolerate is the kind that involves big money where they would rely on others for stylish and lavish lifestyle when they could not afford to live such a lifestyle. These are the kind of people that disgust me to no end. Some girls would opt to be a sugarbaby so that they could have an easy life by leeching their sugardaddies. Some women are willing to to be a married man’s mistress just so that she could go on shopping spree as often as they would make trip to toilet to urinate.
There’s of course those relative freeloaders who do not know how to live within their means. Some married men would want the best and branded stuff for their wife and children, but could not afford to do so, and so would resort to sending off their kids to their parents or in laws to take care of their kids for them, and never contribute a single cent to their parents or in laws for taking care of their children for them. These people will turn a deaf ear when their parents or in laws try to ‘extort’ money from them. They will give excuse, saying that they are not financially stable when in truth, they are spending those money for their own enjoyment, eg, second car, vacation, golf trips, etc. Some men allowed their wife to swipe their cards and when they are in debt, they would hunt some poor friends or relative to ‘borrow’ them some money so that they could clear their credit card debts. Those money, of course are as good as gone, as they never intend to return the money in the first place.
I really hate freeloaders, as I think it’s a selfish act, and rather unethical sometimes, depending on the situation. But while we can avoid and be frank with friends or colleague who have tendency to freeload, how do we avoid or tell off relatives who tend to freeload and you could not say anything to them because you are afraid that by doing so, they will get mad at you and severe family ties or even spread nasty rumours about you within your family caused others to shun and shy away from you?
Trust me on this, freeloaders are not only skilled in extorting and leeching money from people, but they are also skilled in defaming and ruining other’s reputation too. So, how do you handle this kind of people? I am not the brightest crayon in the box, and i hope my dear readers would spare some time to share their experience in dealing with freeloaders.
Cleffairy: Living within your means is a noble thing to do.