Happy Labour’s Day 2009

I’m late one day, it’s already 2nd May when I wrote this, but then again, better late than never. Here’s wishing all slaves alike a Happy Labour Day. Have a nice and long weekend with your loved ones.


Cleffairy: Everyday is labour day to me. Slave around like nobody’s business every damned day!


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12 Responses to Happy Labour’s Day 2009

  1. Mama Hazim says:

    I left comment about NASOM . Why was it not accepted? YOU ARE WRONG ABOUT NASOM. This is the place where my 2 sons improved a lot & were given opportunity to show their strenght.

    p/s: it would be a good for u & NASOM if u’re able to share yr brilliant idea & expertise on how to handle these special child.

    Mama Hazim

    • cleffairy says:

      Mama Hazim, I do not know why your comment was not accepted. As far as I’m concern, if you leave a comment that is too long in length or more than 1400 words, it will be automatically directed to the spam box, and will be automatically deleted after a while. Well, I may be wrong about NASOM, however, you may be not right either. NASOM is NOT for every child’s needs. While it’s maybe right for your children, it may be not right for the children under my care. Define special, please. There are children who are spastic, autistic, ADHD and many more.

      As I said in my article, IT IS NOT RIGHT for them to put a child who is not autistic in the very same group with children whose needs are very much different. I have an ADHD child under my care, and a doctor had misdiagnosed him for being autistic and referred him to NASOM. It turned out that he’s an ADHD child. And my visit to NASOM with that child brings nothing but pain to my family because they too had labeled the child as autistic without screening him first, and caused us to refer to another private specialist, because the child was terribly upset after that.What’s more, appointments are not immediate. Do not go pointing fingers at me on whether I’ve check the place out or not. I did and it early of this year and it does not sit really well with me. Things worked differently for certain families, and we have different views, and I hope you could respect that.

      While I agree in behavioral intervention and therapy, I do not agree in the goddamn use of Ritalin at the very first visit for a child who only have mild ADHD. I am quite particular in the usage of drug on young children as young as 2-3 years old.

      I do not agree that one should drug their child first and intervention later and classify all special child in the same group. NASOM did just that to my family. They did not provide second choice or give us second opinion regarding an ADHD child. PERSONALLY, I think it should be the other way around. I’m sorry if many misunderstood my article, however, it’s not my rights to say on how one should raise their children, isn’t it? What’s good and correct for your child, does not means it applies to everyone in Malaysia.

  2. Bridge says:

    Better late than never. That means you can have all the time in the world to do whatever you want without going to work! We don’t have that here in the US. I don’t know why. Or maybe we do, I’m not just aware of it.

  3. ktx says:

    hey u u!!! u labour meh? u no labour lahhh…NOW, get back to work! hehe.

  4. BlurryLeo says:

    Happy Slave Day clef … At least we have another excuse to have public holiday … 😉

    • cleffairy says:

      Yeah, happy Slave day to you too…I spent whole weekend snoring and lazing in bed. So damn syiok! 😛

  5. amoker says:

    Ah, at least not the labour in the hospital thingie.

    • cleffairy says:

      Wah! thank God, no. LOL… screaming away to spend a holiday is not really a fun thing to do. Lmao.

  6. Mama Hazim says:

    Sorry, Cleffairy for your bad experience with NASOM. I agree in not using drug or Ritalin as it doesn’t help my sons. They look like zombies.

    For us Nasom is the cheapest alternative and they have Inclusive Education Program with Ministry of Education where teacher’s aid will assist the child in the class.

    We found ourself in dilemma 4 years ago when our third son Hafiz then 6 was diagnosed with mild autism like our eldest son, Hazim. We dreaded the thought of having to enrol Hafiz in a national school for we feared he might face the same outcome like Hazim

    Hazim, who was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome (a milder form of
    autism) at six, initially went to a regular school. Despite being able
    to read and write, he was bullied in class, as he did not know how to
    socialise. So we placed him in another school, which had a special education programme. But it was a mistake. Being in a class with other special needs children who had their respective issues, Hazim’s condition worsened because he copied bad behaviour and didn’t learn much. We pulled Hazim out and he returned to his previous mainstream school.
    But in the absence of trained teachers, Hazim could not cope with the demands of a school.We shift to Putrajaya as we reckoned our sons
    would enjoy the best education in the government’s administrative

    But alas it was another mistake. So when we learnt about the National Autism Society of Malaysia’s Inclusive Education programme, we registered Hafiz for it. Hafiz joined the transition class, which is open to
    children five years and above. He underwent intensive therapy over six months to augment his skills in writing, copying from the board, counting and reading, and sharpen his communication and social skills. Hafiz was among four students selected to participate in the pilot project in the mainstream school, SK (1) Jalan Batu, Kuala Lumpur. Two teacher aides had been assigned to assist them during and after school.

    It is compulsory for those being mainstreamed to attend Nasom After School Support programme in which teacher aides are present as the students complete their homework. We also placed Hazim in the same programme.Today, Hafiz has been promoted to Year 3 while Hazim is in Form 1. No matter how high-functioning an autistic child may be, without therapy, support and the help of teacher aides, sending them to school will not work

    • cleffairy says:

      Mama Hazim, I think you have the idea on how hard it is to have a child who is different from the others under your care. Until you find a correct way to treat the child and teach them, I think they will drive you to the wall. I know I have. =.= I was pulled into a depression and stress once, even. People around does not help also… keep telling us how bad we’re at parenting and all. I think, this is one thing you understood very well too.

      All this while, my family and I have been very very sensitive towards labeling a child, regardless they are autistic, spastic or even ADHD, and while for others, NASOM worked pretty well for them, it’s simply not for ours. Upset the child the we brought there, and had a hell of time after that.I think NASOM is specialized in autistic child, and not ADHD. The child under our care is an ADHD child, and we’re still searching for a place that meets the child’s needs. If you know a place that’s good and the charges are quite affordable, would you be so kind to tell me? Because NASOM is a definite horror for us. At least, for us it is. I didn’t say it’s a no good for everyone. I’m glad their intervention worked for you. Sadly, it’s not the same with us. 😦

      I would like second opinion in therapies, and yet, when we went to NASOM, Ritalin was the first thing they suggest. It’ll probably be better if they suggested behaviorally intervention first, drugs later if the intervention did not work, but they did it the other way around. It really does not sit well with me, because I know how Ritalin slows down an individual neural activities. I’ve seen children in kindergarten who are on Ritalin, and like you said, THEY LOOK LIKE ZOMBIES! It scares me, honestly, and I do not wish the same for the child under my care. besides, I’ve heard many people debate about the usage or Ritalin on autistic and ADHD children. The side effect of Ritalin is horrid. The child can sit still after taking Ritalin, yes, but I suspect it’s the drug that’s suppressing them. insomnia and lack of appetite is also something that should be put under consideration, and so, Ritalin is not an answer… at least for my family.

      However, I agree with therapies, like occupational and speech, etc etc. I’m fine with it, but I do not think I’ll go back to NASOM for theraphies and intervention. I do not wish the child to be traumatized again nor I want my entire family to be depressed and stressed up. I don’t think we’ll be mainstreaming the child, however. We’re looking for a private school alternative or homeschooling, if possible. But then again, only time will tell if we will have to resort to that.

      Mama Hazim, I get wistful sometimes. In the past there are many children with autism and ADHD. My husband was an ADHD child. A terrible one at that too, if I was told correctly. However, he turned out fine and outgrew it, without any psychological intervention nor Ritalin. Why is it these days people are so particular when it is actually possible that we could manage without the usage of drug? Honestly, just because drugs makes caregivers’ work easier, it does not necessarily mean it’s good for the child in long term run. It upset me when I think about tis. Maybe, it’s just me. It’s my opinion, anyway. I’m not asking everyone to agree with me. It’s the matter of choice. Anyway, you can email me if you want to share anything with me. I too, need someone to share their experience with me. I’ll appreciate it very much if you could email me and share your experience with me.

      Feel free to email me personally: cleffairy@gmail.com

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