While others are busy paying tribute to their mothers and buying gifts for the maternal figure who nurtured and raised them, I’d like to pay tribute not to my own mother, or even my mother in law, but those superheroes who are brave enough to be single mothers.
Yes, people. I am wishing single mothers a Happy Mother’s Day. I think, in some ways, they deserve to be celebrated more than mothers who acquired help from their husband or relatives throughout their entire motherhood. Well, you see…I may be wrong in saying this, but frankly speaking, I think it’s more challenging to be a single mother than just to be a mother. Anyway, single mothers are mothers just the same. They should be given the honour and celebrated just like any other mothers all around the world.
In Malaysian society single mothers are generally viewed as helpless or incapable of raising her children, but I give them all my respect to them. It’s not easy to be a single mother, especially when the society with damn fucking stupid mindset are looking down on them wherever they go. In certain society in Malaysia, single mothers are shunned instead of being supported. Malaysia is still a caveman country… well, maybe caveman is not a correct word, but what else could you describe chauvinistic in a mild way? This is the land where what men says becomes rules and law. I just don’t get it sometimes. Just because a women choose not to have a dangling stick between her legs to pleasure her every now and then throughout her motherhood, doesn’t mean she’s not capable of raising her offspring.
Women are still oppressed and looked down on, and egoistic men are claiming that women could not raise a child without properly without a male figure . That sort of mindset have been planted in people’s mind, regardless of age and gender since heavens knows when. And this kind of chauvinistic poison has spread like a venom in the society, and there’s no absolute anti venom to cure the mind of the society from it.
Some are single mother by nature. While plenty others are single mothers by choice, and to me, both deserve the same kind of respect. They are mothers too.
When I was a young brat, I could not understand why some women are foolish enough to choose to be a single mother. Women who are made single mother by nature is something I could understand. Women could not stop death from claiming her husband. That, I understand. And women too could not stop a man from leaving her if the man wants to leave the family. Those kind of women are single mothers too, but not by choice. I was immature and naive then. I could not understand the reason why some women rather be a single mother than be together with her husband and raise their children together. I always thought that to raise a child, a set of parents is essential. Father, mother and children are the people that’s suppose to make up a unit of a happy family.
But as I grew up, I realized why some women choose to divorce her husband or be separated from him and took the pain to raise her children on her own. I mean, come on, why the hell do you need a bloody stupid husband to help you to take care of the brats when all he do is treat the home like a hotel? Women chooses divorce over marriage for a lot of valid reason. Infidelities, betrayal, lies, lack of financial support and many other blah blahs.
Who needs that kind of men anyway? They are not only a pain in the ass, but in many places too. Some men are violent and abuse their wife and children physically and mentally. They are no help in parenting at all. Sometimes, with or without the presence of the man in question, the wife’s life is just like a single mother…not having any help or support from her husband when it comes to parenting and nurturing children. So…why bother being with them at all when you can raise the kids and provide for them very well without those assholes with hanging stick between their legs? It’s better to kick them out of the house than tolerating them as all they can give is goddamn stress.
What I’m saying here is…while I am all for fathers playing their role in their children’s upbringing, I will not condemn those women who chooses to get out of a bad marriage and raise her children on her own. It takes more than courage to do so. And I respect that. So, for those single mothers out there, no matter you’re a single mother by nature or by choice, I salute and respect you. You deserve the recognition more than those who are just normal mothers. Happy Mothers Day to you who are brave enough to raise your children on your own. You are indeed a superhero.
Cleffairy: Men says women are crazy. But it’s men who drives women crazy in the first place. Some men are simply impossible! Getting some of them to be responsible for their action or involve in parenting could be as impossible as turning a charcoal into gold, and they’ll make excuse and countless escape route just to avoid from being responsible and do the right thing.Who could tolerate constant nonsense from these kind of men, anyway?