To conceive or not to conceive

Men are lustful creature. And so are women.  It’s natural. Both are horny creature in regards of the opposite sex(if you’re straight, that is). While women are usually worried about protection, some men just wouldn’t give a damn, no matter what.

I’m quite wary of promoting safe sex, because most men would make millions of excuses not to protect their women in bed, unless they truly are concern about their bank account and stuff. It seems that men are more sated when they release their seed into the womb than the other way around. I don’t quite understand it myself…if there is difference in ejaculating into the womb without protection with having condom on or withdrawal method, because I am not a man. So men out there will have to explain to me to help me understand… err… this bloody thing that excite men so much. Personally, as a woman, knowing that my man bother to protect me during intercourse is arousing enough. I can never understand men’s brain, I suppose. Completely different frequency from mine.

Anyway, when passion dictates, everything else flew out of the window. Though it is unfair to blame men for unwanted or unplanned pregnancy, it is common knowledge that when men are ‘hard’ they are ‘soft’, and when they are ‘soft’, helpless women would be seduced or tricked into having unprotected sex with them. Let’s not blame the men and women. Let us all blame the damn libido and uncontrollable passion, shall we? It’s more fair that way. After all, it takes two to tango… or rather, have sex.

Most of my readers are married, so I don’t think I have to explain about the birds and the bees here. I bet all of you know how to do it, and probably have achieve a level where you’d probably send the Kamasutra author blushing if he’s alive today. Today, instead of talking about safe sex like I usually do, let’s talk about conception. Yes, conception of a child. Since it’s completely useless to talk about protection and safe sex when there is no cooperation from either one or both partner, then I think it is best that we talk about ovulation and women’s fertility, so that one would not be surprised if the woman in question missed her period.

Did you men, and women, know that you could actually calculate and predict women’s fertility and ovulation date by using online ovulation calendar? I am aware that most of you know how to count the fertile date if you’re planning your family. They taught us in science class when we were in high school, didn’t they? Well, in case some of you blokes forget that there’s such thing exists,  let me stress here that you can actually calculate and predict your fertility or ovulation date and make a calendar out of it…you can actually see when is the perfect time to make love so that you can conceive a baby and whatnot.

Ladies, you are most fertile when you are ovulating, so knowing your time of ovulation will help you determine the best days to conceive. Ovulation Calendar calculates the probability of conception based on your ovulation time and other factors such as lifespan of the egg and sperm; and shows you the days that are most promising for conception.

You can increase your chances of having a boy or a girl by choosing the right time for intercourse. Sperm carrying X-chromosomes lives longer and swims slower than male Y-carrying sperm. Therefore, if you have intercourse about 3 days prior to ovulation, you have a better chance of conceiving a girl; and the closer to ovulation you have sex, the better the chances are of having a boy. Ovulation Calendar helps you calculate the perfect time for conception.

The natural way to avoid unwanted pregnancy is to abstain from unprotected intercourse during your fertile days. The most fertile time is the day of ovulation. Ovulation Calendar calculates the unsafe days taking into account possible variations in your menstrual cycle, helping you avoid an unwanted pregnancy.

Ladies, and gentlemen… are you interested? Well then, head over HERE to get your own personal Ovulation Calendar. All you need to do is fill in the last date of your period, and your period cycle, and voila! Your own personal ovulation and fertility calendar. Those who are not interested in conceiving a wailing brat anytime soon, could also use this as a reference so that they could take necessary precaution during their fertile time so that they will be protected from unwanted or unplanned pregnancy.

But we’re not really talking about safe sex today. We’re talking about fertility, making love and the birds and the bees. And since we’re talking about fertility, let us proceed further by talking about conceiving a baby of a certain gender.

While most believe that the baby’s gender is up to fate or God to decide, I believe that through science and calculation, couples could actually control their future baby’s gender. Even if couples could not control their baby’s gender 100%, they could actually increase their chance in conceiving a boy or a girl by using the Shettles method. In fact, the properly applied Shettles method gives couples at least a 75 percent success rate. Some researchers have reported success rates up to 90 percent.

The Shettles Method is based on the fact that the Y chromosome bearing sperm ( boy sperm ) are smaller and less robust but move faster than the larger X chromosome bearing sperm ( girl sperm ).

So based on this fact, the Shettle Method recommends the following to help you conceive a girl.

How to Conceive a Girl


Determining the Time of Ovulation:
Determining when you ovulate is vital when you are learning how to conceive a girl. Shettles recommends that you have sex 2 1/2 to 3 days BEFORE ovulation in order to increase your chances of conceiving a girl. Having sex closer to ovulation will dramatically decrease your chances of conceiving a girl. The timing of intercourse in relation to ovulation is a vital factor in increasing your chances of having a girl.

Frequency and Timing of Intercourse:
Shettles says in order to increase the chances of having a girl, you should have sex everyday from the end of your period up to 2 1/2 to 3 days before ovulation. After this point, do not have unprotected sex until several days past ovulation.

Intercourse further away from ovulation favors the larger slower moving X (girl) sperm. The weaker Y (boy) sperm will die more quickly in the more acidic preovulatory vaginal / cervical secretions and by the time of ovulation there will be a much larger concentration of X (girl) sperm available to fertilize the egg.

Sexual Position:
Shettles suggests that if you are trying to conceive a girl, shallow penetration from your partner, preferably with the missionary position, will deposit the sperm closer to the entrance to the vagina. This area is more acidic than closer to the cervix and acidity will work against the weaker “boy” sperm leaving more “girl” sperm available to fertilize your egg.

Sex and Orgasms:
When trying to conceive a girl, Shettles recommends that you don’t orgasm during sex as the body produces substances after orgasm that makes the vaginal environment more alkaline, which favors the “boy” sperm.

The contractions which accompany an orgasm help move the sperm up and into the cervix, giving the “boy” sperm an extra chance at being available when your egg is available for fertilization.

How to Conceive a Boy

Frequency and Timing of Intercourse:

Shettles says in order to increase the chances of having a boy, you should have sex no earlier than 24 hours before ovulation to 12 hours after ovulation. Intercourse closer to ovulation the faster but less robust Y (boy) sperm. The cervical mucus present at ovulation is less acidic and “slippery” enough to help the Y (boy) sperm reach the egg more quickly.

Sexual Position:

Shettles suggests that if you are trying to conceive a boy, deep penetration from your partner, preferably with the “doggy style” position, will deposit the sperm closer to the cervix giving the more aggressive and quicker moving “boy” sperm a head start to fertilizating the egg first. In other words, ladies and gents, if you want to conceive a boy, then you’ll have to be more creative than just practice the lame and traditional missionary position.

Sex and Orgasms:

When trying to conceive a boy, Shettles suggests that orgasms during sex are a good thing as the body produces substances after orgasm that makes the vaginal environment more alkaline, which favors the “boy” sperm. The contractions which accompany an orgasm help move the sperm up and into the cervix, giving the “boy” sperm an extra chance at being available when your egg is available for fertilization. (Ahemm, I suppose men did not bother much to give orgasm to his partner since the population in the world consist of more female than male.)

Considerations for the Men:

  • Have your partner wear boxers. Wearing tight fitting underwear increases the heat levels around the testes and can, in turn, lower the sperm count. Wearing loose fitting underwear helps keep the testes cooler.
  • Have your partner drink a caffeinated beverage right before sex. This makes the Y-Sperm more active.

I think I have lectured enough, and hopefully, my readers are not asleep in front of their PC. I hope the information above is useful for those who are planning their family(and also those who wants to avoid unwanted pregnancy).

Cleffairy: When men are hard, they are soft. Those who do not want to conceive, beware of the softness, and not the hardness. And ladies,when you had hard time with your bratty sons in the future, I suppose the fact that you probably had an orgasm and enjoyed the process to the max is indeed a tiny consolation. LMAO. And goddammit, men, if you do not want anymore brats, please use PROTECTION!

Frequency and Timing of Intercourse:

Shettles says in order to increase the chances of having a girl, you should have sex everyday from the end of your period up to 2 1/2 to 3 days before ovulation. After this point, do not have unprotected sex until several days past ovulation.

Intercourse further away from ovulation favors the larger slower moving X (girl) sperm. The weaker Y (boy) sperm will die more quickly in the more acidic preovulatory vaginal / cervical secretions and by the time of ovulation there will be a much larger concentration of X (girl) sperm available to fertilize the egg.

Sexual Position:

Shettles suggests that if you are trying to conceive a girl, shallow penetration from your partner, preferably with the missionary position, will deposit the sperm closer to the entrance to the vagina. This area is more acidic than closer to the cervix and acidity will work against the weaker “boy” sperm leaving more “girl” sperm available to fertilize your egg.

Sex and Orgasms:

When trying to conceive a girl, Shettles recommends that you don’t orgasm during sex as the body produces substances after orgasm that makes the vaginal environment more alkaline, which favors the “boy” sperm.

The contractions which accompany an orgasm help move the sperm up and into the cervix, giving the “boy” sperm an extra chance at being available when your egg is available for fertilization.

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16 Responses to To conceive or not to conceive

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  2. eugene says:

    Does not matter lah, Sex is supposed to be fun, conception is the by product. I always think it is wrong, to have sex so to have baby. SEX is the union of two souls, two bodies intertwined, to immerse in your partner’s realm, to feel him/her.

    As for having baby, it is only when you are ready, so one cannot blame the other one for all the “Accidents”. If you allow your partner to penatrate you without protection, so that he can have his full kick, you must always be responsible for all the aftermaths.

    In fact i would propagate that responsible partners should learn more about the joy of love making, the thrill, the ecstasy, so that we dont have to look elsewhere to fullfill our selfish desire, dont you think so.

    I wonder why cant we talk about sex, whey cant we educate ways we need to learn to make love making fun, it doenst have to be that way. why doest it always have to be man on top and etc….

    P/S Lets talk about sex baby,, lets talk about you and me……

  3. Straight Sex says:

    Do you know when, and where your child was conceived Did you suspect you were pregnant before you missed your period. Straight Sex

  4. fran says:

    liz! are you gonna get have another kid? LOL

    BTW do Drop by maple or MSN (:

  5. guojing says:

    Jie I’m not married leh! Explain to me wads birds n bees! =)

  6. GoogleGuy says:

    This was a really great read, I am very glad I came across your site.

  7. Eat more sour food….then you will have girl. Eat more bitter stuff like bitter gourd then will have boys….I think it works but then mathematically the probablity should be 50-50………or my friend always advise if you keep on getting the same sex babies then change your lifesytles, go for the opposite of the things you like……also change sex position…..ha ha ha! LOL

  8. Cheeyee says:

    A good one to share! But I also believe fate… whether u r fated to have boy or gal. 😛 Somehow different people has different body, same method may not work for everyone. And the Ovulation calendar only work for those with regular menstrual cycle.

    Anyway, good luck for those who try to conceive. 🙂

  9. chrisau says:

    nice article but comes too late for me, two kids for me are enough.

  10. william says:

    After having six children, I can tell you that the ovulation calendar can only be used as a guide. You need to add in another 2 days to the front and back. To make it easy to calculate the ovulation day, just remember that 14 days after ovulation, the period comes. So, add in another +-4 days before and after the ovulation, these are your fertile days. To make it safe, use +-6 days! Your chance of getting pregnant using +-4 days is about 20%! This is experience talk from my own statistic! Haha… I have 3 girls and 3 boys.

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  13. Margaret says:

    Thank you for youreducating post. I found it very useful. Great Job. Please Keep it up.

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